Hi, How Ya Doin :)

Hi, How Ya Doin:)

It’s been a while but I hope you’re doing well. There have been a lot of things happening on my end just the past year; a lot of growth but also some losses.

Throughout this journey of adulthood, I realized that no matter how much you love someone they have the choice to leave your side- and there won’t be anything you can do about it except to accept the way things are and carry on. All you have is yourself.

I’ve been experiencing that a lot with the friendships I made this past year- and let me tell you first Boys are Stupid! Gosh, you really can’t keep a genuine friendship with someone without them getting butt hurt that you don’t want any relationship. I’m not complaining, but ya know #firstworldproblems.

Anyways before I start ranting, my point in coming back onto this blog was to really emphasize the importance of self love. I feel like I tried to implement self love last year but it turned into a mess because apparently boys wanted me to feel guilty about doing my own thing (sorry, promise last time ranting).

Alas, I’m going to recreate 2019 and make it the year to re-establish not only myself, but to help other people really find who they are as an individual – not who they are with their friends, not who they are with their family, not who they are with their significant other.

Who are you?

Are you comfortable looking in the mirror at your stripped down, most vulnerable self?

I’m in the process of writing a book about the definition of love, and it’s not the facade that media has painted and has made us fixated on a very superficial meaning of love. If you’re interested (my small amount of followers that I love so much LOL), please message me to be part of the book – it’ll be just a couple interview questions that I think are important to discuss.

Well good night – I’m signing off and hopefully I’ll be back on again soon with another life update 🙂

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Newly Inspired Traveler

You probably were confused reading the  title of this entry and wondered

“What is ‘newly inspired’?

“Is there a grammatical error?”

LOL it probably is a grammatical error and it’s probably a made-up phrase, but let me explain to you my definition of what a ‘newly inspired traveler’ is.

I always wanted to travel, but there have been a lot of things that hindered me from traveling thoughout the years (money, school, parents, etc.) but I have found that there is no better time to travel than right now.

The friends that I have made in college tell me so many stories about the places they have traveled, and I gawk and get all excited when they show me pictures of the crazy places they have gone to.

But no one has truly inspired me to travel more than my roommate, Diana. She is an international student from Mexico City, and she showed me her bucket list of places she wanted to travel (pictured below). When she talks about the beautiful ambiance and culture of her city, and the difference in politics between the US and Mexico, it makes me want to travel 6 hours to visit her🙈

So if anyone plans on going to Mexico City anytime soon, here are some amazing places Diana and I researched to go to☺️

 

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Bree: The Namaste Master

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I’ve known Bree since the dark days, pre-pubescent years of middle school! She has always been light-hearted and charismatic, so it’s no surprise that she is getting into vlogging. Here are some highlights from my interview with her 🙂

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Q: What made you want to get into vlogging?

A: I want to say it’s because I always wanted to vlog but I never really had a reason or never really important to document. I noticed that after I graduated high school and got into college, I realized how much I hated it because I didn’t have the passion for it.  It was first and second semester then intercession that really triggered and drained the life out of me. I started getting really lazy and then I was trying to find something to do with my life. I decided to take a gap year and vlog. My parents think it’s just a gap year, but no, there’s no way that I’m going back to college LOL

Q: Has vlogging changed any pre-conceptions that you have on vloggers and have you learned anything based on your experience?

A: Vloggers and people who are creating content have to have a lot of motivation for what they’re doing. You’re not doing it to gain anything really, but to just do what you love. That is what I want to do. I actually got annoyed at people when they asked me “Why are you becoming a vlogger?” and at the time I wasn’t, but I guess now I am 😀

Q: There are so many Youtubers who do dumb stuff just to get more views. With your Youtube channel, what are you trying to achieve?

A: My youtube is really just whatever I want to document, what I want to remember and look back at. The most important thing in life is to inspire and motivate others. I was just inspired and I want to live to inspire.

Q: Now that you have more people knowing about your personal life with video, is there anything that you regret doing?

A: No! I’m very open but at the same time I’m not. When I want to share something I do, and when I don’t then I won’t. I actually never thought of it as sharing my personal life, it’s like Snapchatting with your friends.

Not only is the badass-B vlogging, she is also learning how to become a yoga instructor!

Q: Is there anything in your life that influenced you to become a yoga instructor?

A: My yoga experience is definitely interesting, not necessarily very unique, but it’s very interesting in the way that I stumbled upon it. I was just looking for another way to work out. I did dance and at the time I wanted to be a dancer and I had to be fit: How much muscle do I have to gain in order to hold that pose or hit that move? There were just many things I did to try and work out. I tried Yoga Sculpt 3 or 4 years ago, and then I stopped. I remember at the time, someone told me I could work there for an hour and a half a week and get a free membership. So I was like, “Perfect!”                      I started training this year LOL (I know, three years later). When I started the SAT (yoga exam) I took a teacher-training program.

I took the Yoga Core class when I started and I didn’t realize how hard it was. I kinda took the class as a way to understand and find myself. Then I took the class again last month, and it was honesty the best decision because I would learn a couple new ways to love myself. #1 You have to be healthy. #2 Yoga will help your body. There’s this breathing technique that my friend showed me that is so beautiful, and it shows that yoga is a form of art. Whether you think of it as an art or fitness, yoga has strengthened my mentality and has became a form of expression. This inspires me to do yoga.

 

Q: Whenever I go to a yoga class the instructors talk about all that namaste and inner peace mumbo-jumbo. Why LOL? What would you talk about as an instructor?

A: We actually talked about that in class yesterday. It depends on the instructor if he/she wants to talk about that. A lot of teachers talk about being in the present and not worrying about the future.

I would talk about being in the moment. You’re being in the moment that you’re in- enjoying coffee with a friend or something- and you’re happy with it. It’s so easy to say it, but when you think about it it’s so true. I was in the car the other day just stressing out about this class I had to teach that Monday and I was so nervous. I just took a breath, thinking about driving in my car and saying to myself “You’re okay right now.” For me, that’s the major theme in yoga. Once you are in that space, you block out that outside noise the world creates and just be in the moment.

Q: What do you see your future to be like as a yoga instructor?

A: Fun! It’s just a way to connect with a lot of people. I love to teach people, but I have trouble doing things by myself. Like for example, I can’t go grocery shopping without my sister LOL. Which is why I’m glad to continue being in this group of people and being able to express myself with other people. 

There is this yoga concept “The highest me honors the highest you” that includes a bow. A lot of people think we’re being religious whenever we practice it, but it’s just a sign of honor. Long ago when yoga was first born, there was no physical aspect to it. You would literally sit for hours, trying to connect with the divinity- the idea that every single one of us has this part, which I will call the “flame”. We are all connected with this divinity/universe, where a part of it lives inside that “flame”, and that “flame” is inside you.

As a yoga instructor, I want to connect with each students’ flame.

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The end! 

I want to thank Bree for taking the time for this interview and if you want to learn more about her, visit her Youtube channel here!

 

Photo of Strength: You are beautiful no matter what anyone else says…

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Location: Crystal Cove Beach | Model: Bri Lien

My friend (won’t say who) is an aspiring Instagram model that told me about one of her horrible modeling experiences. Long story short, the agent invited her to a modeling gig but when she arrived, that agent said that it was a “mistake” – he thought she was a different model.

I never told her this (because I thought it would make me seem like a wierdo) but I commend her for retaining her composure and not screaming at the guy’s face. I look at the situation like this…

It’s very insulting to see a person that does not value another individual’s time. Those hours driving up to LA and waiting for a potential-but-ended-up-not-happening gig are precious hours that could have been spent talking to other agents and getting a jumpstart in a career. I get it that designers/agents think of their models as mantels for their art pieces, but these are humans with feelings.

Let me know if I’m wrong, but the modeling industry places crazy-strict beauty standards on women and men that make it so hard for these women and men to accept who they are and the flaws that they have. Who tf sets up these standards anyways?

Did someone research and find that the girls in a certain height range sell more clothes than girls who are say, 5’0 like me? What about guys who are shorter than 5’6?

Did someone take a poll and find that boys and girls who are plus size / curvy aren’t as sexy as boys and girls who are petite/ skinny?

Who is supposed to be there to judge and to define beauty?

YOU!

YOURSELF!

I’m not here to bash the entire fashion industry of course, but mistreatment of models in order to sell a product is not the way to go.

Please give me your comments below, but what changes (if any) would you recommend the modeling industry should have? Do you think those changes are obtainable?

Thanks!

 

My Love for You Burns…

Roses, the flower of love.

My Love for You Burns like the Heat from a Thousand Suns; you are the wind beneath my wings; if you were a burrito I’d call you a bae-rito.

Well anyways, this picture of roses carries a lot of meaning but the flower itself represents and is the symbol for love. Whenever I get a bundle of roses from someone, of course I just feel warm and fuzzy just like how the depict in commercials and movies on what to get your girlfriend for Valentine’s Day. I don’t know why I feel such a way whenever I receive roses, it’s not like I was told I’m supposed to feel this way. But even looking at this picture, not even physically holding a bundle of roses, I still smile and start thinking of happy thoughts. I imagine holding the giant flower in my hand and smelling the natural fragrance that freshens the air I breathe.

I feel like this rose shows the beauty of love, but every rose has its thorns. Today I experienced two of my good friends who had undergone heart break and I would never expect that to happen to them. I guess you’ll never know who would be the next victim to fall short of the thorns and to experience heartbreak.

That is what this picture of roses symbolizes.

Male: “How do I tell if a girl is in a relationship or not?” Female: “What do I do if my boyfriend is out of my league?”

Soooooo these are some cute questions we wanted to answer because they seem like everyday problems that lovers seem to face…So here we go!

Male: How do I tell if a girl is in a relationship or not?

Dana: Well I’m saying that you should just ask her because if you just spy on her or something like that, well you’re not going to go anywhere. Honesty is the best policy, so if you need to ask if she’s in a relationship or not so you could ask her on a date, then just go up and ask her. Just don’t be awkward, just ask the dang question.

James: Just ask her, thats the easiest way to find out. Or odds are if she has lots of pictures with a guy or has a guy in a profile picture; she is probably dating him.

FemaleWhat do I do if my boyfriend is out of my league?

Dana: Well, why do you think he is out of your league? If your boyfriend is making you feel inferior or saying that he can get someone better than you, I would say just break up with him because you don’t want to have to deal with someone who makes you feel unworthy.

James: If you’re dating someone then that means they aren’t out of your league. Get your confidence up, thats not a good attitude to have. Your significant other is with you for a reason, trust that.

Not All Relationships Are Romantic…

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I don’t know how much I have to tell her, but I miss her so much and I’m so scared what would happen if I ever see her again.

Right now I’m not thinking about the romantic boyfriend/girlfriend kind of relationship problems, but the friendship type. This has been bothering me so much lately and I just feel like senior year I have experienced so many lost friendships. I know it just may be because people drift apart whenever they lose interest in being friends with a person, but that’s not justifiable. I just think that real friends don’t drift apart. Some people that I’ve known throughout the years don’t even look at me when I smile at them or they look always agitated whenever I walk by. I mean, I haven’t done anything bad and I don’t smell, so it’s confusing to realize that the people you once got along with before suddenly turn on you and make you feel small. I get so scared.

I used to be really great friends with this one girl and everything was going fine until one day she told me that she didn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I don’t know how people do that so easily, because when that happened I practically begged to earn my friendship back with her and I didn’t understand after everything we have been through together, she just decided to cut ties with me. It hurts; it’s been about a year and she still hasn’t given me any sign to be friends with me again and that hurts me the most.

I know that for me personally, I don’t dislike anyone yet I hate the eerie feeling of a friend that also treats you like an enemy. I guess I just like it when I don’t always have to be the one to come up and be friendly with friend I haven’t seen a while. Sometimes I’d like to know if that friend cares about me as well. But oh well friends aren’t everything, but all I’m saying is that high school friends are so confusing.

Love & Psychology

How do you fall in love? Yes it’s a very vague question and most people think it’s from gaining an attraction to someone’s personality or appearance and then you just “fall in love” with that person. However, I think that much of love has to do with psychology because our minds play with our emotions a lot and make us all feel some type of way towards certain people. I learned that love doesn’t come from our hearts, but rather our heads.

Love can be hard to determine even when psychologists explain the mechanism of love. A humanist would say that we need love because it’s what makes us become self actualized people and it’s what makes humans good. A psychoanalyst would say that we humans crave love and we have an uncontrollable desire for it. A behaviorist would say that we learn to love things with the continuous use of stimuli. Personally, it’s hard to even believe the logic that these psychologists used to explain love.

How did psychologists know that humans are inherently crazy for love and how did they know where love stems from? 

I might be well off going into a tangent, but as you can see love has a origin that is hard to describe and it is even more difficult to describe when people say they don’t love someone anymore. For example, I know a lot of people who have been through break-ups lately and it’s just weird seeing couples being so crazy about each other one day to not even talking to each other the next day.

How do you tell yourself that you do not love this person anymore?

Is it like an explosion in your brain made you realize you don’t even like this person or is it because your brain got bored of seeing this person and wanted to be stimulated by other people?

LOL I really don’t know what I’m going for with those questions and it’s difficult for me to explain my feelings when I feel like I’m in love with someone. Love is not just a universal feeling that everyone has; every individual has their own way of loving someone and so it is hard to determine because love is a feeling inside our minds.

What is love?

Sixth Response Post: “My boyfriend left me for another girl when i really loved him…”

 

Female 6: “My boyfriend left me for another girl when i really loved him and needed him. I treated him right but he still left me. I dont know what to do?”

Dana: If your boyfriend left you for whatever reason, just stay strong and don’t make it seem like the end of the world. We are young so there will be plenty of time for us to get to know more people and also to find ourselves. Sometimes boys don’t pay attention to the efforts that we girls put into relationships (This could be the same for girls as well, sometimes we can be oblivious too) but that’s okay because it’s their loss if they don’t pay attention. If you know that you put in your all and you know that you were a great girlfriend, there’s nothing to regret and there’s nothing that you should feel guilty for. If he leaves you when you needed him most, maybe it is time to let him go. Leave with dignity without any hard feelings because even though you may not even want to be friends with this boy anymore, at least remain on okay terms with him. Lastly, be careful in the next relationship you have because if there were qualities that you didn’t like in your ex, you can’t find those same qualities in someone new because the cycle repeats again and you’re probably going to be left .

James: My advice is you don’t worry about it, he obviously doesn’t deserve you; although it is cliche there are other fish in the sea. Focus on yourself, you shouldn’t need a boyfriend to be happy; you shouldn’t have to rely on anyone. But when you do have a boyfriend they should make you happy.