Hi, How Ya Doin :)

Hi, How Ya Doin:)

It’s been a while but I hope you’re doing well. There have been a lot of things happening on my end just the past year; a lot of growth but also some losses.

Throughout this journey of adulthood, I realized that no matter how much you love someone they have the choice to leave your side- and there won’t be anything you can do about it except to accept the way things are and carry on. All you have is yourself.

I’ve been experiencing that a lot with the friendships I made this past year- and let me tell you first Boys are Stupid! Gosh, you really can’t keep a genuine friendship with someone without them getting butt hurt that you don’t want any relationship. I’m not complaining, but ya know #firstworldproblems.

Anyways before I start ranting, my point in coming back onto this blog was to really emphasize the importance of self love. I feel like I tried to implement self love last year but it turned into a mess because apparently boys wanted me to feel guilty about doing my own thing (sorry, promise last time ranting).

Alas, I’m going to recreate 2019 and make it the year to re-establish not only myself, but to help other people really find who they are as an individual – not who they are with their friends, not who they are with their family, not who they are with their significant other.

Who are you?

Are you comfortable looking in the mirror at your stripped down, most vulnerable self?

I’m in the process of writing a book about the definition of love, and it’s not the facade that media has painted and has made us fixated on a very superficial meaning of love. If you’re interested (my small amount of followers that I love so much LOL), please message me to be part of the book – it’ll be just a couple interview questions that I think are important to discuss.

Well good night – I’m signing off and hopefully I’ll be back on again soon with another life update 🙂

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Photo of Strength: You are beautiful no matter what anyone else says…

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Location: Crystal Cove Beach | Model: Bri Lien

My friend (won’t say who) is an aspiring Instagram model that told me about one of her horrible modeling experiences. Long story short, the agent invited her to a modeling gig but when she arrived, that agent said that it was a “mistake” – he thought she was a different model.

I never told her this (because I thought it would make me seem like a wierdo) but I commend her for retaining her composure and not screaming at the guy’s face. I look at the situation like this…

It’s very insulting to see a person that does not value another individual’s time. Those hours driving up to LA and waiting for a potential-but-ended-up-not-happening gig are precious hours that could have been spent talking to other agents and getting a jumpstart in a career. I get it that designers/agents think of their models as mantels for their art pieces, but these are humans with feelings.

Let me know if I’m wrong, but the modeling industry places crazy-strict beauty standards on women and men that make it so hard for these women and men to accept who they are and the flaws that they have. Who tf sets up these standards anyways?

Did someone research and find that the girls in a certain height range sell more clothes than girls who are say, 5’0 like me? What about guys who are shorter than 5’6?

Did someone take a poll and find that boys and girls who are plus size / curvy aren’t as sexy as boys and girls who are petite/ skinny?

Who is supposed to be there to judge and to define beauty?

YOU!

YOURSELF!

I’m not here to bash the entire fashion industry of course, but mistreatment of models in order to sell a product is not the way to go.

Please give me your comments below, but what changes (if any) would you recommend the modeling industry should have? Do you think those changes are obtainable?

Thanks!